“A house is built by wisdom and becomes strong through good sense.. Through knowledge its rooms are filled with all sorts of precious riches and valuables.” – Proverbs 24:3-4 NLT
It’s amazing that as potent and wonderful as love is, it is not the primary foundation to a thriving home. I’m talking about “Eros”, the love that attracted most of us to our spouses. Our anchor scripture clearly says that wisdom, understanding and knowledge are the foundation of a great home and family life.
This is true even in life. We tend to devalue what we don’t understand. If you don’t understand how to use a vacuum cleaner, you either abandon it or you don’t maximize its potential. The same way with our relationships. Understanding our spouses and applying what we understand will ensure a happy and fulfilling marriage.
Pay Attention to Your Spouse
Marriage is not self-sustaining. What you don’t pay attention to will die.
“ The place where your treasure is, is the place you will most want to be, and end up being.”-Matthew 6:21 MSG
Understand that attention is expressed differently for men and women.
Men are mostly goal-oriented. They thrive when they have goals to achieve, when there’s a project at hand. So wives, support and encourage your husband’s goals and projects. Push him to dream big and see how you can contribute to the success of those God-inspired goals. Don’t nag when he seems to be consumed by a particular project. Rather wow those dreams to life. Ask him questions about it, conduct your personal research about it and make contributions.
Women are mostly relationship-driven. Attention for her revolves around building your relationship; going out, talking about family, children, etc. That’s why women watch and listen to romantic movies and stories. Husbands, take time out of your goal-getting project and focus on her. Take her out to the cinema or for dinner. Spend time talking to her about her stuff. Ask her about her day. Compliment her looks. Look for ways to make her smile.
These seemingly small details always result in a beautiful and lasting marital life.
- Thank You Lord for your wisdom
- I commit to paying attention to my spouse. I will be an active listener, doer and learner.
- I commit to be an encourager. I will contribute to my spouse’s dreams. I will make time out for them.
- I thank You for refreshing and restoration in my home and marriage. In Jesus name, amen.